Look, I know you don’t NEED anyone to peel your oranges for you. You and I both know you can do that on your own. I am still going to peel you an orange, once in a while. With or without being asked. Not because you need the help, but because I want to do something for you. It’s just an act of service, and for that you owe me nothing at all in return.

Orange peel theory is often presented as a test – if they won’t read your mind and peel you an orange without being asked, then that means they don’t really love you. This is stupid. They might actually be loving you in other ways.

Orange peel theory is also meant as a commentary on loving independent people. Why would acts of service make sense as a love language for people who take pride in being able to manage just everything on their own?

Just because a person who takes pride in being independent would never dream of asking anyone else to peel them an orange, that doesnt mean they don’t appreciate this specific way of being loved.